The Love Dare

The Love Dare

Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

The Love Dare
, as featured in the popular new movie Fireproof (from the makers of Facing the Giants), is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take. It’s time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage. Take the dare!


  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: B&H Books; 1st edition (September 28, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0805448853
  • ISBN-13: 978-0805448856
  • Product Dimensions: 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (1,927 customer reviews)
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  1. I became a Believer 5 years ago. Married for 6 years to a beautiful, amazing woman and blessed with 2 adorable children from this union, why do this ‘challenge’? Why read this book?

    I love my wife, and our marriage thrives. Sometimes I think if men would simply, truly love their wives, divorce would go out the window. In general, and forgive me for generalities, woman thrive at relationships and social activities if we give them a reason.

    My dilemma: I became a Christian and my wife didn’t. Still, our relationship works even with an essentially ‘New Ager’ married to a ‘Jesus Freak’. I pray and witness to my family openly and try to do it with love and without a better than you, condemning, preachy attitude. But I’m flawed, and sometimes she’ll roll her eyes or sigh, and either I or her get a bit defensive or worse, offensive. Whew!

    The Kendricks’ 40 day challenge offers daily encouragement essentially for Believers; although, anyone could benefit from a program that stresses kindness, attentiveness and re-discovery, but unless non-Christians are open and friendly towards the Faith, most will probably be put off by the Christian theme.

    If you like a daily to-do format and the feeling of having a 40 day period of cleansing, starting over, renewal, I strongly recommend this for you. Most of the challenges are simply commonsense, but it’s nice to hear it in short, digestable pieces and wonder what tomorrow’s challenge will bring. And of course, it goes well with the movie.Read more ›

  2. After 15 years of marriage and three children, this simple little book helped me to remember that marriage is not just about meeting the right person, it’s also about being the right person. A small time commitment over 40 days breathed now life back into our marriage. I highly recommend it to all married couples.

  3. Half of all marriages end in divorce. That means most marriage relationships are either severely dysfunctional or headed that way. What is the answer?

    The Love Dare’s answer is that we don’t really understand how to live out the love that marriage requires. Inspired by the movie Fireproof, this book is a forty day devotional that covers various aspects of the true sacrificial love which is missing from many marriages.

    There is a lot to like about this book. It clearly explains the nature of mature love & practically challenges you to live it out. It emphasizes how YOU have to be the one to take responsibility and change, regardless of how your partner does or does not respond, and it shows how the strength for that kind of love is powered by a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. This book has had a powerful impact on thousands of people, and I am very thankful for the truth it teaches.

    However, the book does have some shortcomings. First, the book is unnaturally constrained to fit the plot of the movie. The movie’s plot confronted the main character with his need for a personal relationship with God mid-way through, and so the book follows suit. Halfway through the forty days, we suddenly shift to a presentation of how living out sacrificial love should make one realize his absolute need for Christianity. For Christians reading a book on marriage, the discussion of how our relationship with Christ should structure our marital relationship should be foundational, should be page 1. On the other hand, a non-Christian reading the book frankly is unlikely to be impressed by this sudden foray into an altar call in the middle of the book.

    Second, the book spends little time on the differing roles of the husband and wife in a marriage.Read more ›

  4. To be fair, I am only on day 10 of the dare. I purposefully waited to review and intended to wait until the end, but I wanted an alternate perspective on Amazon. I am not knocking the authors or the intent, but I can’t give this book 5 stars because instead of helping my marriage it’s making me feel even less loved. I already do most of the things the dare has me to do for my husband. When one of the dares required me to ask him what I did that may annoy him, he answered “I don’t know”. There’s nothing in this book about how to deal with that (again, I’m not all the way through it).

    A good friend and I are both doing the Love Dare and are having similar difficulties. While we are both trying to be better spouses and be more patient, we are faced with husbands who are the antithesis to everything in this book. The Love Dare’s answer to that? Love is unconditional.

    If you are a patient, caring, giving, loving spouse who bends over backwards for a mate who does not return the favor, this book is likely to cause more resentful feelings between you and your spouse. (To which the book reminds you, Love is not Selfish).

    If you are a selfish and whiny nag of a spouse who constantly berates your mate and expects him or her to be perfect in every way, this book will open your eyes.

    I give the book three stars because either way you will learn a lot about yourself and your spouse.

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